This week I met up with old friends, some of whom I hadn’t seen for … dare I say it? … thirty years.
It was lovely. Beyond lovely actually. A bunch of bright and interesting people who were close friends during their teens; who have scattered across countries, across continents; created families; created businesses; had their ups and their downs, their joys and their pains, but who today are actually simply adult versions of their teenage selves.
There is an ease and familiarity that remains from teenage friendships .. it’s like riding a bike … you never actually forget, and we picked up with each other as if we had left off the day before.
Of course there was the catching up, the practical questions “so where do you actually live now? …. and what’s the name of your youngest?” …. but the essence of each person required no explanation, they each remain the same … just more ‘grown up’ and it was reassuring to observe that if you are a ‘good’ person at the age of 14 or 16 or 18, then the chances are that you will still be ‘good’ 40, 50 or 60 years later.
And because we came to the reunion from all over the world and from very different walks of life, there was no competition. Nobody trying to prove he had ‘done better’ than the others, whatever ‘done better’ may mean, and each person apparently comfortable with where they are today.
So as I drove home I thought about everything that had been said and shared, about the very different paths that we have each followed, and about how we each have a responsibility to enjoy our lives and make the most of each day, how we face our challenges and also make the most of the talents and opportunities that we are blessed with.
It seems to me that we are in a very fortunate position today. Especially we women compared to past generations. We have the liberty, the technology and the confidence to create and live the lives we wish for. The world really is our oyster, it’s for us to recognise and harvest the pearls.
I hope you have a lovely weekend ahead of you, and that you will have a moment when you take time to slow down and take stock of where you are today, and where you want to be tomorrow, or next year or in ten years time. Because while it is true that opportunities have to be seized, it is also sure that they can be provoked or created.