how we came to live here

by Sharon Santoni

 

This is the strange tale of the house that waited for our family.

view of the house through the trees

Mon mari and I have had many different addresses.  In several different countries.  When I was expecting our first baby we were in a lovely sunny flat in Paris.  Great,  I hear you say, and it was, but we wanted trees, we wanted countryside, we wanted more… So by the time number 2 was on the way we found ourselves renting a beautiful orangery in Normandy.  This was lovely too, in the middle of an oak forest, but when I was expecting number 3, we were ready to buy, and things got serious.

The French real estate agent is a breed apart.  They think it indiscreet to give you details on properties for sale!  Not the best selling technique!   Fax messages were sent to  ALL the local estate agents, notarial offices etc explaining what we were looking for.  NOBODY replied!
large metal gate with bushes on either side

Finally an agent called and I was invited to look at the details of a horrible ugly little house, “MAIS NON !!! I cried, this is not what we had in mind.”  Luckily,  he was called away for a long phone call and I was left with his pile of forbidden property files!  Obviously I started going through and, lo and behold, found a picture I liked.  “VOILA!”  I exclaimed to the harassed agent when he came back into the office.  He looked worried, left the office and returned with Monsieur le Directer.   They explained that it was not possible for me to see the house because it belonged to a big local family, and because my husband wasn’t with me that day, and because and because…..

I persuaded them that I was capable of visiting a house without mon mari being present,  so against their better judgement off we went.

What can I say? that evening I told mon mari I had found the place we needed to raise our children, and that night was filled with sweet dreams.

view of the house with lawn chairs in the garden

The estate agent hadn’t finished surprising us;   he wouldn’t take our calls, let alone inform the owners of our offer!

Weeks passed, and by chance a friend introduced us directly to the owner of the house.  A large and complicated family, who wanted to sell one day, but not necessarily the next.  Mon mari handled everything brilliantly, but it took a long long time, and our fourth baby en route.  Yes, a very long time – two whole years with nobody else interested!

Some things are just meant to be.  We may now be here forever  and see our children married in the garden, or we may pick up sticks and live another adventure in a far off land.  We will always be glad that the family has grown up here.  It may sound foolish but I believe that this house has loved looking after us as much as we’ve loved looking after it.

43 comments

Pamela Terry and Edward April 22, 2010 - 8:35 pm

Oh I did love this story.
I always say that our cottage is the fifth member of our family. Just after my husband, myself, Edward and Apple! A most happy family indeed.

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A Perfect Gray April 22, 2010 - 8:42 pm

what a wonderful story. you are so gracious to share it. you may have many readers (me included) who say, 'please e-mail me if you EVER decide to sell your beautiful home.'

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Obee Designs April 22, 2010 - 8:43 pm

What a great story! I guess you can say persistence paid off for you. Your home is lovey and jaw dropping.
I just found your blog and will be following along now. I look forward to seeing more about you, your family and your incredible home!
XoXo
Gail

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Debra April 22, 2010 - 8:57 pm

I loved hearing how you stayed with her until she was yours. Perseverance paid off for you!
Your home is lovely-surrounded by gorgeous gardens. I can tell that your home is well loved.

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CÉLINE CHOLLET April 22, 2010 - 9:01 pm

Sharon !
Belle vue de votre propriété de ce côté aussi !
Les agents immobiliers font exprès de nous monter des maisons horribles, pour qu'après on se décide pour une autre qui veulent vendre !
Bonne soirée,
Céline.

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Petie April 22, 2010 - 9:45 pm

Beautiful home! What a great gift to your children to grow up there. I can see many weddings and other events in that gorgeous garden.

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Sailing Simply April 22, 2010 - 9:49 pm

Oh, your home is so beautiful! I really enjoyed hearing your story about how different the real estate market is over there. I would have been so discouraged. I am very happy for you that your perservance won out! I'm adding you to follow and cannot wait to come back to see more of your beautiful home.

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Emelie Stanfield April 22, 2010 - 9:51 pm

You are lucky! Such a great home – worth waiting for 🙂

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trouvais.com April 22, 2010 - 10:10 pm

Hi Sharon. Wow…you brazen hussy! I'm impressed! Will make mental note to be very assertive and patient if ever looking to buy real estate in France! It is absolutely gorgeous. Though I would prefer gray stucco/French, my husband came home soon after our youngest was born and said…"I saw this big white house on a hill…" The views and tall ceiling sold us, so we put up with its numerous idiosyncrasies. Thank you for you story! Trish

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Kerry April 22, 2010 - 11:39 pm

That is a fantastic story, and such patience! I've only read in books about the hassles of buying in France and Italy, but it's lovely to hear the real deal in bloggyland and know that it really is true! Thanks for sharing that Sharon, and I really do believe that houses choose their owners…yours clearly got lucky!

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fleurs53 April 23, 2010 - 12:27 am

what woman wants….je ne sais ce qui est le plus beau,la maison ou le jardin?biz.val.

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Desde my Ventana April 23, 2010 - 12:45 am

Your home is a wonderful house and I have liked very much to read your history.
Hugs,
Cecilia

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Coty Farquhar April 23, 2010 - 2:45 am

Sharon, This is such a wonderful story and I can just imagine that your heart jumped out that day you saw the photograph on his desk.

Mine did too, when we found a beautiful old home in the country. Unfortunately, we are not there anymore. Oh I wish we were.
But my memories are still very clear when I walk around the misty gardens in my mind.

Have a wonderful, wonderful week.
xxx Coty

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Carolyn April 23, 2010 - 2:51 am

It is a beautiful home in a beautiful setting.No wonder you fell in love with it!

Carolyn

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Martha April 23, 2010 - 4:29 am

A great story! And a great house!

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Julie@beingRUBY April 23, 2010 - 4:40 am

Oh Sharon
What a wonderful story… perseverance! It's so funny to hear that they actually did't want to advertise…how do they ever expect to sell??? Glad you snuck a look at the 'Forbidden Files' as she is a beauty…. Almost brings a tear to my eye.. to think of life in a beautiful country home surrounded by nature….[I say this as I look out onto a concrete carpark]. the overriding feeling I get looking at your photos is peace and beauty…. wonderful… Have a lovely weekend Sharon and thanks for sharing both the photos and your story… xxx Julie

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Sarah B April 23, 2010 - 4:59 am

What a wonderful story! It is the most perfect property, just gorgeous!

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Kerri April 23, 2010 - 6:15 am

What a great story…I love hearing romantic tales like these, although I'm sure it was far from romantic during those two long years! We actually swapped houses with the then-owner, and it took six months of finacial woes (on her part), stress and uncertainty before it was ours. But I knew all along it was meant to be, so it was worth the wait. Thanks for sharing the beautiful story of your absolutely beautiful house! K xx

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Bella April 23, 2010 - 7:49 am

What a wonderful story! Your home is absolutely beautiful – it sounds like it really was meant to be.

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Passionedeco...perchè le case hanno un'anima April 23, 2010 - 9:43 am

Dearest Sharon,
this is such a wonderful story! I have avidly read it. The house is just THE PERFECT HOME, I do love the climbing ivy, the white shutters, I must admit I love everything about your house! And you, 4 children, a house like that, horses,dog…do you ever seat down and have time to relax? I think there's always something to look after (inside and outside). I really esteem you deeply Sharon. Fra

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Miss Sew & So April 23, 2010 - 11:06 am

Oh sharon – i feel like i have opened a wonderful novel….'you will see' your children married in that gorgeously, beautiful garden because i do believe that the house chose you & would want to be part of your families life forever…what travels you've had & how wonderful for you children- all having little different 'parts' of france in their make-up….it's soo lovely to hear how aware you are of its 'perfect-ness' -2 years was so worth the wait- and i'm sure the moments of anguish & frustrated tears….may pop past for a wine on those ivy covered back steps one day…
melissa x

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Cathy M~(checkitoff) April 23, 2010 - 1:58 pm

so beautiful! thank you for sharing your story with us. Came to you via Our Suburban Cottage:)

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Julie April 23, 2010 - 3:52 pm

I am LOVING your house! I am going to follow you so I can see more of it when I have time. I love all things French & I live in an American version of a French Country house. I plan to write about mine & join the party at Our Suburban Cottage. My husband & I will be visiting France for the first time in just a few weeks. Can't wait!

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Les Cotrions April 23, 2010 - 10:02 pm

What a nice story and you told it in such abeautiful way!!! You have been patient, but now…you truly can enjoy your dreams home!
It's enchanting!!!
Happy week end!
Vale

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Jeanne April 24, 2010 - 1:37 am

Sharon, what a great post. I love that you love your house and you feel that it looks upon your family the same way. When you love a house that much it is meant to be!!! I hope you live a good long time in your special place and that your children's children will be able to visit you there as well. What a special place indeed!!

Jeanne:)

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Lori April 24, 2010 - 3:25 am

Sharon, great, beautiful, family home. I was browsing your blog and you have to go look at mine and how it got it's name. My heart with pleasure fills. You are only the second post that has had the poem quoted. A Canadian and now you! …. and dances with the daffodils. Bonne Nuit.

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Anne Marie April 24, 2010 - 6:42 am

I just enjoyed your blog for the last 15 minutes…..and I'm sure I will for some time…..I'm following instantly.

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Greet April 24, 2010 - 9:32 am

Sharon,
This is a very nice story! I do believe that some things are meant to be happen and this house was waiting for your family!
Sharon the house is just stunning! It is also my dream of one day coming to live in France!
xx
Greet
PS I posted the picture you asked for!

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Dash April 24, 2010 - 10:26 am

French estate agents are unbelievable, in more ways than one, we had a very similar scenario when we bought our house.

So glad you got the house, I am sure you will have many beautiful years in it.
XX

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Millie April 24, 2010 - 12:48 pm

Fab story Sharon, although quite the opposite to us. We were actually drugged & abducted in the dead of night by dodgy Real Estate Agents. They forced us to sign a contract I have no recollection reading!!! You & your beautiful house were meant to be together, it was written in the stars.
Millie ^_^

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The Moerks April 24, 2010 - 1:04 pm

Every time I see a photo of your house I feel I am about to enter a wonderful story or film. I loved this story. Please please tell us some more.

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Ange April 24, 2010 - 5:40 pm

Sharon what a fab post and I laughed about the real estate agents. I must write another post for my other blog which is about the house we bought in Provence… What a nightmare but it was still a house that was meant to be. You have inspired me – I shall have a go. Hope I make it up to Normandy one day to see it in person.
A 🙂

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@nne April 25, 2010 - 7:40 am

Bonjour! Very glad to discover your blog. A bientôt, @nne

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~*~ saskia ~*~ April 25, 2010 - 8:30 am

Oh my, these wonderful pictures make me daydream of vacation. Gorgeous place!
Hope your weekend is great so far. A big hug for a wonderful new week! xo

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oldgreymare April 25, 2010 - 9:02 pm

Sharon,

Please share more stories of the house…hurry please please?
Those of us not so fortunate to live in such a place are peeking in the windows.

Suzan

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Angie Muresan April 26, 2010 - 8:33 am

Oh Sharon, I love this post! You have such a beautiful house, I do hope you decide to post more photos of it.

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La Dolfina May 18, 2010 - 4:37 pm

What a story! The French are so quirky… but in a good way. You were meant to find that house. You really are living the dream that so many of us dream of! One day I will come and stay and the piece de resistance will be meeting you!!!!

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Gloria July 5, 2010 - 2:09 pm

What a charming story. Absolutely love it.
Best,
Gloria

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Aninha August 18, 2010 - 9:45 pm

Sharon
I really love your story, for few seconds it`s like a little book. Wonderful story, wonderful home.Enjoy all your dreams!

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simon October 24, 2010 - 8:33 pm

Wonderful written,beautiful home indeed.

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Le Chateau des fleurs June 6, 2011 - 4:40 am

Some things are just meant to be. I think. You are very lucky

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Ian Miels April 17, 2014 - 9:20 am

Very interesting story. In the descripotion, the first person or rather refer to yourselves 31 times in that short passage of 325 words. Such a shame in an otherwise interesting journey.

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