blogging and sharing – a fine line to tread

by Sharon Santoni
During the month of September, to my surprise, a couple of readers wrote me asking why I don’t show more pictures of the inside of my house …  hmmm….

Of course maybe I don’t show more of my house because it’s not as picture perfect as I’d like it to be, or because the children  leave their odd socks all over their bedroom floor, or because the dogs have chewed the corners of the stairs. …….  Or it could be because there is a fine line to tread.

I replied (politely and kindly I hope) that although this is a blog called MFCH, and although the header is a picture of our home, it’s actually a place where people come to dream and imagine, and create their own ideal and image of living in France.

 Added to that, I pointed out that this is  above all our family home, and that the more I divulge of our daily living, the more it would feel like an invasion to my husband and children.

Then of course it got me thinking about how the net, and social networks in particular, have blurred the boundaries between privacy and publicity.

A generation ago, before facebook existed, who would ever have thought that anybody was interested in what you’re eating today, or where, or with whom?!  social media has changed all of that.

I was once told that if I wanted the blog to be successful, then I had to “bare all”!! ” The more you show, the more you get”!!  And there are certainly some very successful blogs out there, who prove that true.


There is a big element of voyeurism to blogging, I know that.  I do it too.   But I also enjoy the blogs that make me laugh with their witty writing, or make me dream with tales of where they live, or please my eye with their perfect taste and  clever styling of small vignettes .

Strangely enough, I don’t really mind if a blogger is telling the truth or fabricating … I just want to be entertained.   Each blogger has to decide how far they want to go.     I’m not comfortable  showing pictures of myself, or of my family (apart from the dogs!), but I know that not everyone feels that way. [blank]


So what do you think?  Am I making a fuss about nothing?
tell me please, I’d love to know.

I wish you a lovely weekend,
thank you for reading me.


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186 comments

MARY PERNULA October 12, 2012 - 4:42 pm

I agree totally! Hugs Mary

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Lisa @ Fern Creek Cottage October 12, 2012 - 4:49 pm

I do show pictures of my home, but I am pretty close lipped about what's going on in my life on my blog. I love reading other blogs where they tell you all kinds of details about their life. They are entertaining to read! But I am an extremly private person and the thought of sharing too much horrifies me. I think the whole point of having a blog is for it to be a creative expression of you. So I think one should always do what feels natural and right for you and not anyone else.

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Lise-Lotte October 12, 2012 - 4:50 pm

I absolutely agree. I LOVE your blog! And I appreciate all the wonderful pictures and thought that you put into your writing. I too have a blog, and I don't attach pictures of my family (apart from our dog) nor do I attach pictures of parties that I have organized. It is a fine line, perhaps, but I think that it is a healthy boundary.
I hope you have a wonderful weekend
Lise-Lotte
partygreen.ca

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French Girl in Seattle October 12, 2012 - 4:54 pm

Bonjour Sharon. Good questions you are raising this morning, and I tend to agree as well. So many people tend to over share nowadays (celebrities in particular,) that it almost feels like an acceptable thing to do. Even though I have shown photos of my family on the blog in the past to illustrate some of my more personal stories, I have been reluctant to show the inside of our home, just like you. I feel as if I know some of my readers and love their weekly visits and comments. Some have even become friends, I think, even though we have never met. But there are some strange people out there too, right? "I have seen too many movies…" will probably be my epitath one day 🙂 At any rate, I agree. Some things are better left to the imagination. Veronique (French Girl in Seattle)

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a breath of fresh air October 12, 2012 - 4:55 pm

Hello Sharon

Intersting blog and I agree with you entirely.
Although I love looking at other blogs of peoples home interiors, just as in the way I flick through country living magazine etc. I am careful about what I post on my blog. I'm with you regards the fine line.
Annie

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Anonymous October 12, 2012 - 4:55 pm

Thank you. Everyone has to find their own comfort level, but I am always amazed when people discuss finding out their spouse has strayed and how they are now coping, financial woes of the past few years and having to leave their homes, and very personal information about family stress. I wonder what their children will think as they look back on very private moments that their parent has decided to share. I understand that these bloggers think that they are doing a good thing by letting others know that life goes on, but at what cost? Love your blog and all your beautiful pictures.

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The Blue Farmhouse October 12, 2012 - 5:00 pm

It's obvious that your blog is very popular because it romanticizes (did I spell that right) almost a dream world…France, shopping, collecting, dining, traveling. So the more you show the more people may want you to show….anyway I love your blog and I read it everyday (especially the brocantes):)

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Amelia October 12, 2012 - 5:00 pm

Share only what you are comfortable with, and I will continue to love reading/looking at whatever you have to show me.

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Catherine October 12, 2012 - 5:10 pm

I have never wondered about why you have not shared pictures of the inside of your home (yourself, husband or children).

I wouldn't do it for a variety of reasons.

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Sweet Sue October 12, 2012 - 5:12 pm

Hi Sharon, greeting from NY! Have been a faithful follower for years, and am grateful for whatever you choose to share. Love visiting your blog and will be happy with whatever content you choose, thank you for the time and effort you share. Wishing you a lovely weekend:)

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Pamela RG October 12, 2012 - 5:20 pm

I agree with you entirely. I feel the same way too about my blog. Besides, your blog is successful and we love it as it is. Your entrance hall is welcoming and stylish. Thank you for sharing it. Bonne weekend!

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Christina Garcia October 12, 2012 - 5:30 pm

Sharon ~

No, you are not making a big fuss out of nothing. Privacy is a very rare commodity these days. One that we should guard and treasure. Plus it is lovely to leave something to the imagination. Thank you for your wonderful blog.

~ Christina ♥ (from Los Angeles)

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Anonymous October 12, 2012 - 5:40 pm

Hi Sharon:
You have a lovely blog and we all enjoy visiting. I think you should share photos of the inside of your home. You share all the loot photos that you purchase at the puces, so what's the difference? It's not as if a blogger is going to try and find your home and break in to steal your stuff. Plus your already somewhat already out there on the web. If someone pays to come and stay with you, don't they take photos of your home? Couldn't they just post them on their blog?

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WhiteWhispers2u October 12, 2012 - 6:05 pm

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WhiteWhispers2u October 12, 2012 - 6:08 pm

Pondering over your thoughts myself! I have shared and I have been real but for me it doesn't seem to matter as no one seems to interested.
I think the blogs that share all decor mostly become a hit and others have great writing skills and are very well liked.I do like to get to know the person a lil more behind the blog and feel connected but People seem to be enjoying what you are already doing so do what you are most comfortable with.~Cheers Kim

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Mrs. Sutton October 12, 2012 - 6:18 pm

Hi Sharon, what an interesting question.
I feel that each to their own and only share what you are comfortable with. I personally am not comfortable with images of my children or family on-line (apart from my dog – Byron!), I think that I showed one quite early on, and regretted it straight away. It suddenly didn't feel quite right that their faces and names might be known to strangers across the world!. I recently came across an image of my children's bedroom on Pinterest, and although ultimately it was my decision to share it, it was still a surprise to stumble across the image by chance. However, I love interiors magazines and images, and that is mainly what my blog is about, so sometimes it's fun to play about with my own decor and share/swap my ideas with those who care to pass by.
Paula x
p.s.Btw I visit you because of your wonderful style of writing and your take on life, as well as the gorgeous images!

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Geli October 12, 2012 - 6:18 pm

Hello Sharon! A little privacy is very important in our days with multimedia, facebook and internet. I love your blog like it is. Have a wonderful weekend!

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I Dream Of October 12, 2012 - 6:24 pm

Hi Sharon, This question and your thoughts around it are very well stated. I agree that it's a fine line, and how far one should cross in it depends, I think, on ones personality and goals of the blogger. The thing about your blog is that although you don't make it "about you" in the sense that you're not publishing photos of you or your family or lots of little details about your home, I get a very strong sense of the person you probably are. It's in the beautiful photos of your flowers, the way you write, the things that interest you. I've never felt that you weren't sharing enough of yourself. The filter I try to use with my own blog is "will this interest my readers" – especially when it's something about my own life. I want my blog to me more about my readers than about me, if that makes sense.

I think you should just keep doing what you're doing because, truly, yours is one of my favorite blogs out there! XO

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donna baker October 12, 2012 - 6:53 pm

Hi, this really is an issue it seems. I was reading a magazine the other day about this very thing. It said us bloggers and other related media, are narcissistic and voyeurs. I winced, but there is some truth to that. I think some of us are lonely; I live miles from nowhere on a farm and spend 95% of my time by myself. Some would go crazy, but I handle it somehow. Blogging is my way of reaching out. It has been a very positive experience and I have really gained much from it. I can travel to places all over the world, learn new and wonderful things and on and on.

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Noelle October 12, 2012 - 6:54 pm

I only post on Facebook, which doesn't constitute a blog. When I do post there, it's about where I am or pics of where I'm at or been because I'm a Flight Attendant. Private life is just that. Yours is the ONLY blog I read daily. Please keep the photos and thoughts flowing our way. Happy trails!

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Lorrie Orr October 12, 2012 - 7:00 pm

I'm surprised that people would even have the nerve to ask you the question. Privacy is something to value. I occasionally show my family members on the blog, but ask them and respect their wishes, too. Everyone must blog on their own comfort level and no one else need interfere. You provide plenty of inspiration and beauty, and your blog is certainly successful!

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Bluebells and Lavender October 12, 2012 - 7:01 pm

Hi Sharon, I've thought about this many times since I started blogging only a year ago. Blogging to me isn't about revealing myself and my family, it's about sharing interiors, art and whatever I feel I would like to share with those few people who take the time to read my blog. I have wondered about bloggers who share 'everything' and in fact I've just read a blog where everything is always revealed…hhmm in this day and age, I think being able to keep your privacy is more difficult than getting it all out there due to the social media world we find ourselves in. But having said that, many bloggers want that kind of interaction….each to their own…Have a lovely weekend. Sharon

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Razmataz October 12, 2012 - 7:04 pm

I show some of my home, my pets and Bits, but never photos of my family or friends really. I also try not to mention names as not everyone wants to be connected to the blog. I see that people try to entertain and take it as such. I do however think it has a shallow component where we are actually reading about how someone tidied their pantry this weekend, putting everything into Bonne Maman jars. I am very guilty about reading many blogs, but I am starting to fizzle out with the mundane and would much rather read a good book and learn something new. Blogs have a wonderful place, but I think they take up a lot of time (as do most social media) and we need to be aware of that. I think you are wise to protect your family form intrusion.

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Razmataz October 12, 2012 - 7:06 pm

Anon….why caouldn;t you state that without the veil of anonymity?

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Today's Treasure by Jen October 12, 2012 - 7:24 pm

I agree Sharon. I think of blogs as canvases… one puts forth a work of art, that comes from a particular vision we have, with the hope that our blog family will enjoy it. What goes on just off canvas is not captured- only imagined. Some may choose to bear it all but I have always admired your mindful separation of your family (& home) from MFCH. XO~Jen

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Lottie October 12, 2012 - 7:55 pm

I don't do pictures of my home or family and have only posted photos of my dogs too! I guess I only do that so as not to be identified… I bare my soul and write with complete honesty which I find a huge release. I guess most of us have boundaries on our blogs and those are mine x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:13 pm

thank you Mary!
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:14 pm

Exactly Lisa, each person has their own comfort zone
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:14 pm

Thank you Lise-Lotte, "healthy" … I like that
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:16 pm

You know Veronique, it's not even the weirdos that worry me, it's just that this is our space, and home is a sort of sanctuary
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:16 pm

Thank you Annie, you're right, reading blogs is like flicking through magazines, just free of charge!
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:18 pm

Thank you, yes I also worry about the effect on the children. I think blogs are made for sharing the happy stuff. Superficial maybe but it's what suits me
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:19 pm

Thank you for reading me everyday. I know I am feeding the dreams of many people … that's why I don't talk about the mundane bits like taking out the garbage 🙂
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:20 pm

thank you Amelia, that is my intention
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:20 pm

exactly … 🙂
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:21 pm

Thank you Sweet Sue, I'm still amazed that anyone wants to read me!
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:21 pm

Bon weekend à toi aussi Pamela – so glad you like my hall 🙂
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:22 pm

Thank you Christina, I think you hit the nail on the head, it's privacy that needs protecting
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:24 pm

HI there, thank you for your comment, it's a shame you're too shy to sign 🙂
You may have noticed that I have an online store, so when I show my loot shoots, I hope to encourage readers to visit the store.
I'm certainly not worried that someone could break in and rob me, we live in quite a simple manner, thieves could be disappointed!

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:26 pm

Thank you Kim, I also like to get to know the person, but that doesn't mean I need a tour of their home
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:27 pm

Hi Paula
what always worries me is that once it's out there, you can't take it back …… thank you for your kind words and for dropping by so regularly
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:28 pm

thank you Geli, all these wonderful comments are most encouraging

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:30 pm

Thank you Jeanne, I can return the compliment, because I know that your readers grow to feel very attached to you. Isn't it funny how distinct personalities can come through a blog, just via the writing?!
have a wonderful weekend
xx

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Anonymous October 12, 2012 - 8:31 pm

Hi Sharon,
I love your blog! One of three that I check every morning. I admire your restraint in not baring all. There are some blogs out there that share to much information. In this day and age, I think especially, when children are involved we must be very cautious how we use online media's.
I grew up in a family that valued it's privacy above all else and I am often startled by what some people feel is appropriate to share with the world.
I am completely charmed by everyone of your posts.
Sincerely,
Miranda
San Francisco Bay Area

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:32 pm

OUCH!! Narcissistic and voyeurs … gulp … don't think I want to think dwell on that one too much Donna! 95% of time on your own, sounds pretty quiet to me
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:33 pm

WOW Noelle! thank you, I am honoured to be your only daily read. I'm sure that as a flight attendant you'd have a load of good stories to tell
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:34 pm

thank you Lorrie, each to their own comfort zone, .. love and respect, it works every time
bon weekend
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:35 pm

You are so right, today it is easy to get the word out, than … keep it in!
But ou are right, many bloggers are looking for that interaction
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:37 pm

You are so right Chania, the first invasion via internet is on our time. You may be getting tired of the 'superficial' but blogs still continue strong!
have a lovely weekend
xx

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Komali Nunna October 12, 2012 - 8:38 pm

I totally agree with your philosophy. I don't feel comfortable showing inside of my house. That is why I future most of the time my garden and outdoor space.

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:38 pm

thank you Jen, I like your comparison to a canvas, that's why each blog is so individual
have a lovely weekend
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:39 pm

where would be without our dogs Lottie?! 🙂

xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:40 pm

Thank you Miranda
I am very honoured that you read me each day. Privacy seems to be a dying art, or even dying value
have a lovely weekend in San Francisco
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 8:41 pm

Thank you Komali, everybody loves to see a a lovely garden
xx

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kabayoz October 12, 2012 - 9:04 pm

Sharon, I've always enjoyed and appreciative of the ideas, tidbits and etc. you posted up everyday. I feel the same as you do. I like to be entertained, learn something new or see what's going on in someone else's corner of the world. Your dogs are wonderful and I love reading them and also your horses. I maybe old school in my thinking but there are certain things that should be kept private, what it is -is entirely up to the individual. Everyone has a boundary they want to maintain, and we should respect that boundary.

xx

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Vicky October 12, 2012 - 9:06 pm

I agree with the stance you have taken. Once you let everyone totally into every aspect of your life there is no getting it back. I read your blog every day, I enjoy your stories of life in France and other aspects you discuss. I don't need to see into your private living space to fill in any blanks. I think many people over share and surely some must have regrets about doing so further down the line. I actually think it is quite rude that people would believe that they are entitled to see what is beyond your front door. No-one is paying you to read the blog so all we are entitled to is what you feel comfortable sharing.

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Jenny Short October 12, 2012 - 9:07 pm

It's your blog. Do what you like to do. Whatever you put is an expression of your likes and taste. People reveal themselves in many ways. The photos you choose are what you love. You don't have to show your dirty laundry. We all have enough of it. But if you do it means you're human. xo Jenny

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Silvana October 12, 2012 - 9:27 pm

Pienso que cada uno muestra lo que desea o lo que necesita mostrar. Lo demás se lo tienen que imaginar.

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Mare60 October 12, 2012 - 9:44 pm

Ciao Sharon
bellissimo scorcio del tuo ..angolo da sogno 🙂

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Barbara Lilian October 12, 2012 - 9:57 pm

I have only been blogging for a few months and your blog was amongst the few I started to read & still do. I look forward to seeing your loot shoots & seeing your dogs along with the flowers from your garden. It amazes me that people should need to see inside your home which is the private part of your life. I say keep doing what you do, & after reading some of the other comments I am not alone. I love to see where you've been on the early morning trips looking for your loot & knowing it's what other people would like to own. Have a lovely weekend & enjoy your family.

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 10:07 pm

You are so right, and I do respect the other bloggers boundaries,; I 'm like you, I just enjoy the entertainment
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 10:08 pm

Actually Vicki, I don't think it was meant in a rude way, more an enquiry to know if pictures were available somewhere. As you say though, the problem is that once it is published, that's it! no going back
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 10:09 pm

well one thing's for sure, you certainly don't want pictures of my dirty laundry!
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 10:11 pm

gracias Silvana, you're right it's for others to imagine
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 10:12 pm

Ciao, we all like to dream a little

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 10:13 pm

Hi Barbara
Thank you, it's amazing how many people like the loot shoots!
a lovely weekend to you too
xx

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PURA VIDA October 12, 2012 - 10:15 pm

this is so strange…I started out with no names and no photos except of my projects..I called my kids bo peep and boy peep and was so private…after a while…I just got used to it I guess. Anyway…I love to look at your photos and read your stories…just like it is, just how you are..but you do leave me wanting more…and that's a good thing!

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Noelle October 12, 2012 - 10:18 pm

Really, the best stories are of how wonderful people have been all over the globe. I've only been doing this for 6.5 yrs, after raising 3 daughters into adulthood. It's been so much fun to see our Nation, as well as my favorite…Europe. My husband has basically learned to live the single life since I flew the coop (literally) when taking this job in 2006. He's gone with me, but mainly looks forward to vacations when I take him to places he's heard about, but never seen. My favorite location is France and my secret desire is to come and spend at least 6 months there when I retire–whenever that may be. Having too much fun right now to entertain that! Thanks for all you give me and others daily. It's the fix until I finally can say hello in person. Life is an adventure, for sure.

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NotesFromAbroad October 12, 2012 - 10:23 pm

Having been through a horrid time years ago with a stalker, I completely agree with your thoughts on keeping your family and home private and as safe as you can, while still being able to blog.
It took me forever to be able to use my own name online, I worried so. Some people will scoff and say "they aren't worried" and when I hear that, I am glad for them not to have that worry. But for myself, keeping a little space between you/me and all those strangers who read (but don't write/reveal themselves) is very important.

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Anonymous October 12, 2012 - 10:40 pm

Hi Sharon,
Yes, I am shy…..if my comment offended you, I apologize. It would be lovely to see your home. Maybe a magazine editor will call you and request a photo shoot!!!

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david terry October 12, 2012 - 10:56 pm

Oh, this is an EASY one, Sharon….

Just for the record?….as I wrote recently, my French in-laws have been here for 3 weeks….their "see your 'new' old house" visit.

My mother-in-law (a 69 year old professor of 17th century literature and a representative of a VERY readily identifiable class in the Tourraine)has been here (or, at least, at my former house)many times over the past nine years, and she truly enjoys all of my/Herve's and my friends.

She was genuinely taken aback, however, by friends who, on their first visit to this big, 220 year old house during her stay (we moved here two months ago), said "Well…let's have The TOUR!"…..and they expected to be trotted all over & completely up&down;&through; all of the house.

….as you'll know, that's just not DONE in France. Come to think of it, I've stayed in my in-laws' big house in Tours at least twenty times….and I've never seen anything inside-the-house beyond the designated "public rooms" on the second floor(two salons, a dining room, and a library), my own guest bedroom, & the kitchen (not that my mother-in-law has seen much of that, herself, over the past forty-some years of her marraige).

My own mother in Tennessee (another older lady of a particular class) would be taken aback if a guest suddenly asked to "see" more of that old house than was automatically offered.

Trust your instincts, Sharon (they're good, by the way…just in case you need validation). It's your home. Anyone who murmurs over not being invited to see more than they were invited to see probably shouldn't be visiting.

For better or worse, the blogosphere already comprises Gwyneth Paltrow, who just can't seem to resist the impulse to over-share every bit of information concerning her husband, her very-young children, what she buys for her house or wardrobe, how she cooks her meals, what "cleanses" she takes (and how often) so that she can poop-out her previously discussed meals (this is one movie-star who REALLY does enjoy talking about her colon to strangers), etcetera.

quite frankly?…in an age of over-sharing celebrities and TMI-wanna-be-francophile-bloggers (no kidding, I recently read one of your reader's blog in which she just sort of casually tossed-off a tidbit about plucking those "three pesky hairs on my left boob"….and I'm NOT kidding)…..?

….suffice it to say that you're obviously a lady with good, practical sense and (particularly for these days)an admirable sense of boundaries (which would refer to your duly keeping certain things OUT and respectfully, particularly in regard to your husband and children, keeping certan things IN).

All in all…you have good taste (obviously) and, moreover & perhaps more crucially, VERY good sense.

I expect Jane Austen would approve of your blog.

That said (and on a slightly more sour note?)….Herve asked me, a few days ago as his parents' 3-week visit was ending, if I still wanted to send them to your cottage next year for his mother's 70th birthday. I told him "Hmmm…maybe…it DOES look awfully peaceful and quiet….but the fact is that I'm thinking about sending MYSELF there for the rest of this week. I'll come back when your parents are gone….."

Level Best as Ever,

David Terry
http://www.davidterryart.com

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Shabby soul October 12, 2012 - 10:57 pm

I totally agree with you darling Sharon. I have a blog and a family, and I've never shown my image or the images of my sons or husband. To me there is a privacy that must be preserved. A
Surely I love to dream and imagine, when I visit other's blogs.
Hugs from Italy
Silvia

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 11:17 pm

But your blog is charming the way it is , thank you for stopping by
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 11:18 pm

I'm so sorry that you were stalked, how horrible!, if I think about this for too long, I'll really start worrying!
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 11:18 pm

I wasn't at all offended, thank you for coming back and re-commenting
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 11:21 pm

Hi David,
how nice it is to have you 'back in action'. As you know you actually have your own fans who come over to my blog, just in the hope of finding you loitering among the comments! 🙂
I've never read Paltrow's blog, but I guess it's all just a marketing ploy.
You know that you're welcome here for a little peace and quiet whenever you wish
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 12, 2012 - 11:22 pm

Thank you Silvia, privacy is so important,especially today
xxx

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Magnolia Verandah October 12, 2012 - 11:27 pm

Its quite amazing though that when you bring up something quite personal the comments do come flooding in. I agree a fine line and really that's whatever you are comfortable with which once again is individual. I do love it when you show me what you cook, then again I do have a food bias!

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Garden, Home and Party October 12, 2012 - 11:46 pm

Sharon,
I am on the fence about this. I think I feel falsely secure that the readers of my blog (and they are few comparatively) might want to see what I've done to certain rooms and when I buy new furnishings. But I understand when fellow bloggers feel differently, so I say you need to do what you feel comfortable with. You do have guests stay in your guest house that are essentially your readers, right? I think that would be a bigger step for me than showing my living room in a post. It's definitely a new world, and I don't want it to loose it's perceived innocence, but I think we have to be smart about what we share.
Karen

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Kristie Franklin October 12, 2012 - 11:48 pm

I think it depends on what you want your blog to represent. I find it endearing and interesting when people write about experiences and events in their day to day lives. But, I also remember the wise words of what my grandfather once told me: "Never discuss politics or religion", topics I try to stay away from because the backlash is so very harsh.:)

Have a great weekend.

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Peter and Shelagh October 12, 2012 - 11:51 pm

Your blog, your rules…….
Share what you feel comfortable with.
Cheers,
Shelagh

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Francine Gardner October 13, 2012 - 12:05 am

I completely understand where you are coming from and if I were not in the business where publicity is a must,I certainly would not share my home. I am however very private when it comes to my personal life and my family.I had to almost beg a client to convince them to let me send pictures of their recently finished house to the press. Because of our great relationship, they gave me the OK. Not only was the house immediately picked up by Luxe magazine, but made the cover !! I am totally nervous, as the first thing my clients will see is their living room on the cover. Of course, places and names are totally anonymous…

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Wild Oak Designs October 13, 2012 - 12:31 am

You share what you want to. It is your blog. I love whatever you have to share or not. Thanks for what you do share. Love your blog and think you must be very special, as are so many who read your blog.
Nancy

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ShantyGirl October 13, 2012 - 12:49 am

I agree your blog is your own to do with what your want I think of a blog like a magazine and in magazines there are pictures of homes peoples stories and pictures of themselves so those are the blogs I tend to follow more I do not want to read anything too personal but do enjoy the happy decor stuff, don't want to know if someones husband is cheating etc….magazines have had this since the beginning of time I don't really consider it new to our age. just more people are blogging than those that were chose to be published in magazines. I enjoy your blog and guess I never thought about the fact that you are not really ever showing your home or face until you just mentioned it. Your inspirations are fabulous!

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Elizabeth Eiffel October 13, 2012 - 1:44 am

After all of these comments I'll be brief. I totally agree with your stance. The photos you do post tell a story and illustrate your wonderful flair for design and excellent "eye". There is no need to divulge more. Bisous et bon weekend.

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French Girl in Seattle October 13, 2012 - 2:34 am

— Agreed. 🙂

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 3:37 am

Hi Sharon,

I couldn't agree more. Although it is a subjective and personal decision about what people feel comfortable showing or revealing, the internet is so
VERY public and we don't always ( or ever ) have control of what happens to information once it is on the internet or how it is used by others. I'd just like to finish by thanking you for your very beautiful and uplifting blog which has just the right balance of private and public and nourishes and inspires me just the way it is. The beautiful energy of your blog – and other's in that vein – is the only thing I want to give my attention to on the internet. Regards, Barbara

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markdownmaven October 13, 2012 - 3:49 am

Hi Sharon,

Keep doing what you are doing – no need to see your kids dirty socks, (I have my own leaving them everywhere). Maybe that's why I love your blog, the sheer escapism and fantasy that someone else's home with kids is still elegant.

I admire that you don't bring them into the public eye – and after all its your blog, not theirs.

M.M.

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Our French Inspired Home October 13, 2012 - 3:53 am

Everyone should do their own thing, but I agree with you.

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GLENDA CHILDERS October 13, 2012 - 4:06 am

I like blogs that reflect the blogger. Since you are private, I like it that you share sweetly about the public parts of your life and passion and keep the rest to yourself. Because it is you.

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 4:10 am

Your blog is perfectly lovely and inspiring just as it is. It is one of the few I check DAILY. Feeling so lucky that you take the time to do this!

Sam, in Texas

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 4:16 am

I love your blog! I've never really taken notice that you don't show pictures of yourself or your family members, probably because I'm enchanted by the pictures you do post of the outdoors, architecture around where you live and you leave out the bits that let me fill in my memories of travelling in France. I agree there is a very fine line when it comes to Social Media. I work at a radio station and listeners get the feeling that they know those of us "on air" and that they should be able to "friend" us on Facebook and see more about us. I won't "friend" listeners and have not posted pictures of the inside of my home (my dog is the focus of the adorable pics that make it on my page)
You have made your blog a "dream" and for that I am grateful and for that I stop by!

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hopflower October 13, 2012 - 4:21 am

The person may not have meant to be rude, but it was. People divulge and share what they want to; and that should be enough. You do a great job with your blog; I enjoy it daily and am grateful that you share so much with us. Thank you for what you give us. And keep your privacy. I keep mine and feel that is the way it should be.

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 5:20 am

I think that it is lovely that you keep your private life private. I love reading your blog daily and looking at the beautiful pictures you post of all the different experiences you have and are happy to share. I am fairly new to your blog but have not missed a day since I found it as I just can't get enough of the beautiful Normandy countryside and lifestyle. Your photos are absolutely beautiful (especially all the pink roses— My favourite of all flowers!) and I love the blogs you post. I do have to admit, when I first started reading your blog, I did have a look to see if there were any photos of your interiors, not because I want to know what you have or know what your family does in your private life or because I felt a sense of entitlement to do so, I simply love looking at the different architecture and interiors of the buildings in France in comparison to Australia especially when they are dressed for Christmas. I would never ask you to post photos of something you were uncomfortable with sharing and I totally agree with you that it is very invasive letting thousands of readers into your home. It is a choice that you have made to keep that part of your life private and as a reader of your blog I respect your decision. I would be wary to do it as well. I admire the fact that you do not post photos of your family in private situations. Nobody likes to feel pressured into having their photos taken and it would be even worse if they found out they had been posted on a blog and shared with thousands of people around the world. I personally hate having photos taken of myself and recently a friend took photos of my husband and I and posted them on Facebook after I had specifically asked them not too… Needless to say, I was upset and now I do not trust that friend with her camera. I enjoy reading about the ideas you post, ie- setting the table for your parties and about your brocante tours etc…. I think it is way too personal and you are asking for trouble if you start posting details about your family life. So a big cheers to you for standing your ground and keeping to your morals, your family will be relaxed in the knowledge that nothing they say or do will make it on to your blog. I find your blog a breath of fresh air and I am happy that you do not include the drama of everyday personal life, I find it uncomfortable to read about the private life of someone I don't really know and have stopped reading many blogs because they have taken that path. Keep up the beautiful work, Michelle 🙂

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Debbie Freitag October 13, 2012 - 6:31 am

Hi Sharon, I only just discovered your blog recently and just love your posts just the way they are. You bring a little piece of a distant land to my world everyday. I think it's important to keep our personal lives to ourselves. Little bits here and there are fine but no one needs to know our dirty laundry, especially when it comes to our spouses and children. Your blog is wonderful, I wouldn't change a thing if I were you.

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 7:03 am

Sharon… you keep doing what you have been doing. It works beautifully. At one point when we were starting to plan a trip to France, i was on your site looking to see if we would stay in your cottage, and what my boys could expect when we were all there. Part of what we loved about it was the fact that we had to be there and experience for ourselves what your home and village and country had in store for us. You share just enough. Enough to bring us to a point of wanting more but not enough to spoil what is really waiting for us. The life that you live is beautiful and special and you tell us how much you appreciate it every day by what you show us. Thank you. Sometimes, you even make us thankful for what we have too.. If you would like to share more, we would welcome it, but in the meantime… you always keep us wanting more… and more. Pam G.

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Bobbi October 13, 2012 - 7:18 am

a Beautiful Articulation of what blogging is all about . . . a bit of fantasy, escape, imagination, just the right kind of voyeurism – and somehow from that generosity of spirit, intimacy and connection. You're achieved that blend and balance perfectly. My favorite blog. Bravo, well done . . . and merci ~

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Debbie October 13, 2012 - 7:35 am

Sharon

I agree completely with what you said. I think to show the entrance area, a chair near a fireplace or baked goods on a table and your house in the garden is more than enough. You don't need to show everything. You've shown us pics of your guest cottage (which is gorgeous) because you rent it out.
It's interesting what David Terry said about giving a grand tour of a house. I'd always thought it ok to expect to be shown around a friend or relatives new house. Not quite snooping for the guest and not quite showing off for the host, but now I realise it's up to the host whether it's ok or not and not something to be expected from the guest. In some cultures giving a grand tour could be seen as showing off and asking for a tour seen as extremely rude.
In my house showing a dinner guest the location of guest bathroom is giving a grand tour (small house).
The world wide web has become a stalkers paradise so I think keeping some things private is important.

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Botanic Bleu October 13, 2012 - 8:00 am

I agree that once it's out there, you can't take it back… especially in this day and in the internet world. One does not have control what happens to images and to words posted on the internet. In our previous lives before the internet, sharing a photo or a letter with someone was not the same as on the internet. Previously, there were only a finite number of hands that these items could pass through….then only one person or small group at a time. Now our words and images can be distributed "like wildfire", can even "go viral." Ten years from now, will we be the same person, or feel the same? Some things are better left unsaid and/or undone.

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 9:46 am

Bonsoir Sharon, I enjoyed reading your post this evening and I have to totally agree with your comments on blogging….You have to be able to protect yourselves,your family and your daily village life from some of the not so nice elements that can exist in the world…and I mean to say you would not want your idyllic village or surrounding countryside brocantes bombarded with hoardes of followers from your blog or facebook – Followers of your blog should also respect your privacy – Your blogs are so well written and photographed that is a sheer pleasure to drift off into a little fantasy world and wish it was me living in your lovely corner of France….Have a wonderful evening…Kindest regards Julia (NZ)

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 11:01 am

Dear Sharon, you show as much of your home and life as to make us dream of.You are absolutely right to preserve your family's privacy.
I do imagine your countryside your adventures and thoughts you publish every day and love your style and sense of humour.Do continue as it was so far.Thank you Dorka from the Great Hungarian Plain http://www.dorottyaudvar.co.hu

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sheepyhollow October 13, 2012 - 12:03 pm

Sharon, I agree with your philosophy perfectly! There is a fine line [with blogging and internet access] and I certainly respect your privacy! You share so much via your blog and I enjoy reading/visiting. Please keep up the good 'work'.

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DREAMS ON 34th STREET ~ French Bread & Family October 13, 2012 - 12:07 pm

You have given me a glimpse of life that I could only know by having a girlfriend or relative that lives in the French country side.

When you do share that glimpse of your home, your girl friend's homes, or a cute story about your children, it's spontaneous, non contrived, sincere and so appreciated by me.

Sometimes the thought of sharing as much as I do scares me. Safety is always in the back of my mind, but in our world we take risks every day.
Blogging has reassured me that there are so many good hearts and souls in this world.

Enjoy your weekend, Sharon.
~Lynne
w/L.

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miranda October 13, 2012 - 12:52 pm

Dear Sharon, I am completely with you regarding privacy and the interior of your home. I have a little suggestion however – if it pleases the masses and retains your privacy. When I chose a holiday cottage, I always choose it after having studied intensely the interior shots. When it comes to holiday homes, for me it has to be beautiful,stylish and classic. Perhaps I am looking for the home I haven't got for a week's treat (I seem to be always restoring houses and nothing is ever in perfect functioning order). Perhaps your holiday Cottage could be your interior. You could be free to 'dress' it as you saw fit, demonstrate your style without opening up the privacy of your own home. I suppose, like the other commenter said, people are to a certain extent voyeurs. They want to see dreams, and perfect homes. Just an thought!

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Delaine October 13, 2012 - 2:04 pm

Hi Sharon, I just have to say that I totally understand not wanting the invasion of your family's privacy. You have to do what makes you comfortable…I can't help but believe that I would feel the same as you do if I was a blogger. At the same time, I love what you DO show us and if it is even a corner of a room in your home, I love imagining what is going on in the rest of the room…leaving things to my imagination is fun and intriguing…I love the element of mystery so to speak. So you just keep on keeping on just like you do! This is what makes your blog special and I love it! If other bloggers want to reveal more about themselves, that is certainly their choice and, no doubt, I enjoy their revelations if they are willing! Have a great weekend,and,as always,thanks for sharing your pics AND your THOUGHTS!

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The enchanted home October 13, 2012 - 3:53 pm

Great topic which I know has been discussed on other blogs too. For me I am happy to share some parts of my home…since I started with many on this journey of my home buliding I felt almost an obligation to share things as they progressed. There are ceratin areas in my home I do not share however. I also agree with you on not showing picturse of yourself or family. It might be my own personal hangup for no real valid reason but I too am not comfortable wiht that and yet I so enjoy those blogs who do show them as it really helps me connect to them on a more personal way.
In the end it has to be what we are each comfortable sharing and giving. People like blogs for different reasons and make connections to some over others. I like so many and some are more for the pretty pictures, others for a peek into living in another country, some for foodie chat, others for travel excursions, and yet others talk more about their personal lives and those no doubt captivate me. There is something for everyone…that is for sure!
Finally thats the beauty of having a blog, its your blog to do as you choose…..you get to make the rules and we just follow along (happily I might add) I think what you are doing is perfect…so just keep on doing it Sharon:)

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Lady Locust October 13, 2012 - 4:25 pm

I see you have a few comments already, but I agree with you. There are so many blurred lines today, not just with internet. I don't have any pix of myself or family on my blog. If you are interested in quilts, antiques and occasionally about the beautiful mountainous wildlife where I live – fantastic. I am a bit of a newbie to blogging (started it in May,) and have tried to determine what I like to read and see in a blog and what I don't. I am glad others have cute kids and pets and homes. It's not that 'I don't care." It's that it is none of my business. I would love more followers, but I am being patient and am glad that the followers I have don't mind me leaving out most of the personal info. You have a beautiful blog. If it makes your heart happy, chances are it will make others happy as well.
tootles,
JoeyLea
https://www.thelocustblossom.blogspot.com/

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andiamo! October 13, 2012 - 4:49 pm

I so agree with your position as there is a fine line with what we need to share and for that matter know about another's private life. Living in the US where it is very common to bare all I sometimes wish for a little more personal restraint. Thank you for sharing what you do!

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Sarah Malone, European Farmhouse Charm October 13, 2012 - 5:29 pm

I'm certain you already know how I feel about you and your blog:)! It's quite obvious to anyone following, that you choose not share photos of your family and your personal living space, and never for a moment has it ever mattered to me. It's successful because of your heart and soul effort and sharing all those other lovely things with us.
I absolutely respect your drawing this line. Your blog, your terms Sharon. Success is most rewarding when you can be who you are, do what you love, the way you want to do it!
Hugs to you,
Sarah

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Anonymous October 13, 2012 - 6:12 pm

Yes! It's your blog and you run it however you want!! I have often thought of blogging about my passions but I just don't think I can take the invasion of privacy! They'll take it all if you let them.

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:14 pm

Thank you Sam!
xx

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c. Joy October 13, 2012 - 6:14 pm

My blogging has a bit of my home, lots of my thoughts, and a few pictures, however, I'm uncomfortable sharing everything with people I really do not know. Besides, a woman always needs a bit of mystery.

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:15 pm

It is amazing how one subject can get people talking, isn't it!
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:17 pm

I see what you mean Karen, but the guests to the cottage don't get a tour of our house! 🙂
x

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:17 pm

I'm with your grandpa'!
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:17 pm

🙂

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:18 pm

Of course publicity is important to business – how thrilling to have your work on a front cover!
xx

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 13, 2012 - 6:19 pm

thank you Nancy
xx

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Mammka October 13, 2012 - 6:38 pm

I'm thinking about this question a lot lately. Take care not to show my family and me to write more than I should. Sometimes I think that I finish writing. This was not like facebook, but I'm there. It is very strange that the new computer age.
greeting : Mammka from Hungary

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A Normandy kitchen October 13, 2012 - 7:12 pm

Hello Sharon,
I read this post yesterday and was just posting a few glimpses of my house at the time and it made me think maybe I should cut them, but I didn't. I think it is right to keep the mystery for you, as it works on this wonderfully romantic blog. It is true I imagine you may have a Farrow and Ball 'radicchio' painted dinning room some days but other days, it's white and there goes your charm, you make us all dream and we actually don't want that spell broken. As a 'bloke' I was 'trolled' because I showed some flowers I had dried in my home… they didn't 'like' that which made me feel sad, but I think we have to take these things on the chin and people like that can just blog-off. So in the words of Billy Joel – 'Don't go changing, we love you just the way you are!'
Ivan

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Paula October 13, 2012 - 8:54 pm

Hi Sharon,
It really is a fine line, and as much as we are all curious to know what the rest of your home looks like, I really think you should have some privacy. So show as much or as little as you wish. I enjoy reading your blog, and will continue to enjoy reading it, even if you decide never to show another picture of your home again.
Best wishes x

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Susan October 13, 2012 - 10:05 pm

Sharon:

I agree that there is a fine line, and in my opinion, too many people cross it these days.

I have shared pictures of my home, but mostly they were taken when I first bought the house, or they are pictures of my stitching/crafting/blogging room – my own little sanctuary. I don't think I'm invading anyone's privacy when I share those pictures.

I have posted the occasional picture of my family, especially as my young son travelled to Australia by himself this past summer, and I was a proud mama, but I don't like having my picture taken, and my blog isn't about my family – it's about my passions 🙂

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KAM October 13, 2012 - 10:11 pm

Hello Sharon

Your blog is a delight for me to read, savor the images, make and taste the delicious recipes you share. Your blog is how you want to share yourself with the world, and that is a good thing. You are not presenting a picture someone else has sketched for you, it is your you. You are just where you are comfortable – what a most delicious thing this is to see and embrace. How you share yourself, with what words and what pictures is all about who you are. Looking at photos of you or your family or your home would tell us nothing, that is right, nothing more than what you deliver in your blog each time you post. I appreciate and savor every morsel of My French Country Home. Thank you for modeling a way to share just exactly what you want to share. Bravo for being true to who you are. I look forward to finding your news in my inbox as we move ahead on this journey of life.
Thanks Sharon….you provide such a delicious piece of my pleasure in life.
Kristin F

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Leslie October 13, 2012 - 10:13 pm

Love your blog (and your dogs)~~ as is!!!

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Katherine October 13, 2012 - 10:30 pm

I think that the amount you show of your personal life is all people really need to see. If your blog was about renovating your home – you would show all the details. But caution is smart.
I blog about our family but use select images and information to be respectful to my family. I'm not the only one living in this house and life!

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Jen Nicholl October 13, 2012 - 11:40 pm

I completely agree with protecting the privacy of the most important people in our lives, our family. I have recently started a blog and have been given the same encouragement on divulging all! The best part of the blogging world for me is the generous sharing of information in particular areas; interiors, recipes, fashion, art… Congratulations on a wonderful blog and exercising caution! I thoroughly enjoy it, Jen X

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Debbie October 13, 2012 - 11:57 pm

Sharon,I have always enjoyed reading your thoughts and the serene pics of your French countryside. It's a look into another part of the world different from where I live. It's always a treat to see your streets, markets, what you cook, receipes you share, and your tables and flowers. I have never felt "cheated" that you don't show your personal space. Please continue to share your everyday musings and let us feel like we have a glimse into the french town of Normandy!

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Anonymous October 14, 2012 - 12:32 am

Yes, I agree preserving your privacy is important – protecting your personal space and home-life is essential for your own peace of mind. Use modern forms of communication for sharing ideas, inspirations, thoughts about things that interest you and your individual take on life etc, etc by all means. But don't be 'pushed' into feeling guilty about sharing more than that.

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Betsy Brock October 14, 2012 - 12:36 am

There are all kinds of blogs, aren't there? Public, private…some you never even see the true face of the writer! You just do want you want and make your blog how you want it. The amount of privacy is totally up to you! I love your blog just how it is! 🙂

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Cruella Delicatessen October 14, 2012 - 1:41 am

Oh really!! but… if you sent message in facebook about your apreniation .. you need modificate the date, the principal analisis and change the doctor and donor of sperma! dear DEBBIE!!

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Cruella Delicatessen October 14, 2012 - 1:44 am

Imagination? .. a lot of imagination and delirius tremens!

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lifeonthecfarm October 14, 2012 - 1:57 am

I think the amount of your private life you show (including the interior of your home) is perfect. For me, you have encouraged my imagination to run wild thinking of French country living and you have inspired my thoughts and mindset, without imposing your life on me, or feeling as though you have given away too much. Well done, keep it going.

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[email protected] Pine Cones and Acorns October 14, 2012 - 2:58 am

Sharon,

I could not agree with you more, although your blog is called my french country home it is just that…your home. And frankly as they say, your home is your castle. You need to guard your family and your personal life. No need to over share, we all love to visit here and dream of a walk down the country lane, or perhaps a weekend brocanting with you.

I think each blog is about something different, and each blog writer writes to fulfill something in themselves, some like to showcase beautiful decor, some DIY, some their talent and people like me, their interests in book, the arts, blog, and baking.

Thank you for writing a beautiful and inspiring blog, and fr letting us be apart of your life,
Elizabeth

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Grace @ Sense and Simplicity October 14, 2012 - 3:02 am

It is such an interesting dilemma you have raised and one that I have considered from when I first started blogging. I do have pictures of myself and my husband and parents and friends as none of them mind being on my blog – however we all have fake names. My oldest son and his wife also don't mind being on the blog, but our youngest two will only allow their backs to be on the blog (along with fake names). I do post pictures of our home and it is funny, but I have an easier time thinking about strangers seeing them than family members – especially if I'm posting about a particularly ugly 'before' shot and I think about my neat-freak aunt seeing it. I have not told anyone at work about my blog as I want a complete separation between work and play. I also only post rather sanitized parts of my life. I know that is what I want to read in other blogs so I try to keep my blog as my happy place.

I firmly believe you should only post what you feel comfortable posting. To be honest though, I find it odd not to be see a picture of who is writing a blog. I hope you don't mind me saying that. I guess I'm a visual person and I feel like a blog is a conversation so when I there is no photo of the blogger it is like they are behind a curtain while we are talking. I hope that didn't offend you – just the feeling I get.

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Veronica Roth October 14, 2012 - 3:06 am

Gosh, I hadn't even thought of "how much, who, where, bare all". I guess I'm always just making my own rules up. But I do know that I make sure the stories I post are mine to tell and the photos, (including of my children) are mine, or okayed by my grown kids. It's all very personal, isn't it? I think you're doing a fine job of drawing your blogging line in your life and I really enjoy coming over for the lovely things you have to offer. 🙂

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Millie October 14, 2012 - 8:13 am

I have the opposite problem mate. If MOTH had his way, there would be pics of him wielding the sledge hammer in the next room to be renovated in his jocks. He knows no shame. And his self-inflated ego concerning the group of Hedgies he reckons adore him is embarassing.

In all these years I haven't wondered for a nanosecond what Mr. MFCH or the MFCH kidlets looked like. Or the inside of your house. Thank your lucky stars that Mr. MFCH isn't always craning his neck & pushing his way into all your posts. You do what you want here & never bow to some dodgy request from a person you've never met.
Millie xx

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sheilaa131 October 14, 2012 - 9:07 am

Blogs are entertaining, enlightening. Informative and fun. You can keep as much of your life private as you desire. We read your blog because it appeals to us readers. Thanks.

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Vicki October 14, 2012 - 11:04 am

Blog owner Elaine, at Sunny Simple Life, just posted similarly about the nature of blogs, and whether or not they can be too "happy" among other things (and, what precisely, is wrong with "happy" (!!!). I'm going to go back in and read more about what she says in total, but I think she goes by "my blog, my rules." There are so many zillions of blogs out there, I think bloggers should just sift through and find what interests them. It's not our business as bloggers to tell a blog owner how to run their blog! I have two blogs which turned me off. One was a "travel" blog (expat in Europe), or at least I thought it was about travel…but what it really seemed to be was a way for the blog owner to "say her say" to estranged relatives who might be reading her, making me feel like an interloper (awkward!). Another was a Down Under "design" gal who I felt was using her blog to complain about her partner a little too much; it put me on edge.

Personally, blogs to me are like going for your favorite subjects at the library, bookstore or magazine shop…but I've found I also enjoy the camaraderie of bloggers making their comments to a post. At first, I thought a cyber "relationship" thru blogging was sort of pathetic…but, now, in a day and age where people are somewhat walled off from others due to work constraints, distance or even reticence to "get involved" when life is already so complicated, I enjoy going into blogs which I've read for awhile, looking forward to the owner's posts, sometimes seeing the same commenters sharing their thoughts/responses, all centered around a subject/theme we share, or else we wouldn't even be on the site. Kind of weird, but welcome to a new age. I've likened it to my great-grandmothers, isolated out on their farms, but getting together from time to time to quilt with their women-friend neighbors, sharing tips & hints (and maybe a little gossip), maybe some humor, maybe some worries. Humans will find their ways to communicate.

I have come to really enjoy the blogs on my Favorites list; blogging is a great way to decompress and you can do it on your own time. I've learned a lot on a variety of subjects both from blog owners and fellow blog readers. I think it's fun to be a part of "the big world" out there and get a glimpse of how other people live all over the world. It's almost like armchair traveling or having a pen pal in a far-off land. Gives us a broader view in more ways than one. I think blogs are a conduit to self-expression; we all seem to have something to say and a need to say it. (Some can do it in concise, fewer words; alas, 'tis not moi.)

For the record, Sharon, my opinion has never wavered. You have one of the best blogs out there. You tirelessly post and keep everyone engaged, which I think must be a big job and I hope you don't suffer burnout from it. I absolutely LOVE My French Country Home! I don't think you should reveal more than you do about your personal life. I feel you have to be careful of that, for your privacy and maybe even your safety, as sad as that sounds. I don't think you should mess with a good thing…your blog being the good thing and completely fine just the way it is!

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Jeanne @ Collage of Life October 14, 2012 - 12:00 pm

I love it when you do this Sharon…get people thinking and talking, it has been fun to read along. You are going to be one busy lady trying to keep up with all the comments. 🙂 I am with Vicki..above, you are one of the best blogs out there Sharon and it is always a delight to share in your journey. Each post brings a smile and for me that says it all.
Best wishes for a lovely week Sharon…
Jeanne xx

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Avanti October 14, 2012 - 12:02 pm

Hi Sharon, Do what you feel comfortable with and if it is not what some want then so be it. I enjoy your blog every day all the way from Australia and agree that people must have a certain amount of privacy. Love your shoot looks and intend to come and viisit one day. Keep up the lovely work. Avantisouthernhighlands.

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david terry October 14, 2012 - 1:03 pm

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david terry October 14, 2012 - 1:06 pm

Two Points:

1. I really appreciated "Vicki"s thoughtful response. A longtime friend of mine (who doesn't read any blogs, but who has noticed my mentioning severalof themover the past year or so) asked what the "attraction" was. I should emphasize that he's well-aware that I don't watch television, rarely (if ever) go to movies, and am scarcely the sort to buy books or subscribe to glossy magazines as a sort of "fantasy" escape-outlet. I told him (having asked myself the same question a while back) that reading blogs (and the readers' responses) was fun and very interesting (for me, at least) in exactly the same way going to a chatty, conversation-filled bar used to be fun for me when I was in my twenties and thirties…I do happen to like people, and you "meet" some very interesting/surprising ones on blogs (obvously, not ALL blogs).

2. I should also emphasize (in reference to my previous posting) that my mother and mother-in-law are the ones who're taken rather aback at requests to be given "The tour" of their houses.

Personally, I couldn't care less…but, then, I'm not a woman; my bedroom isn't even marginally a "private" zone (just for the record, I sleep with three dogs every night), and folks seem to simply EXPECT that men don't keep very clean/tidy bathrooms. I've lived with two different women (one for three years and another for seven years) who would begin furiously scrubbing the bath-tub and toilets the moment they heard someone was coming just for dinner. Whenever I said "Ummmm….these folks aren't going to want to take BATHS here, you know?), all I would get is that "What sort of fool ARE you?" look and the declaration "Excuse me….women ALWAYS notice whether the bathroom's clean!". This would be followed by a fierce directive such as "Whatever you do, do NOT let them in the bedroom…I haven't got time to get in there and straighten it up…".

Of course, I still got my tail in trouble when I'd be showing folks around and say something like "Well, you can't see the bedroom. It's a mess"…..and I'd be in hot water all over again for having said that.

In any case, i'm more than happy to give folks the tour at this 220 year old, rambling house….although I spend most of the time telling them to Watch Your Step (the house is built on five different levels, discounting the three staircases) or Watch Your Head (about half the doors are precisely 5'6" tall, which suits me just fine since I am also).

Level Best as Ever,

David Terry
http://www.davidterryart.com

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Martha I October 14, 2012 - 1:21 pm

It is so nice to take a trip to France everyday. If I cannot come for real I want to come via your blog. I do not need to come inside your home. I think you should have that all to yourself. But your pictures of France fullfill my dreams. Keep the dream alive for all of us. Thank you for what you do!

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:07 pm

Wildfire is the word! and you are so right, nobody knows how they'll feel in 10 year time
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:08 pm

happy decor is good I agree!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:09 pm

thank you Elizabeth et bisous à toi aussi
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:09 pm

thank you Barbara, the balance is maybe the hardest thing to achieve, it's nice to know you think I got it right
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:10 pm

UGH!! my children's socks on the net, now that would be a challenge for my readers!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:10 pm

🙂

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:10 pm

thank you Glenda
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:11 pm

I am a major radio listener, but actually prefer ot to see photos of radio presenters, because I have such a clear image of them already in my imagination
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:12 pm

I really don't think there was any rudeness meant, thank you for your kind words
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:15 pm

thank you Michelle for this very kind and generous comment. I am amazed that anyone could read me every day, thank you!
Had to smile reading you – I could start using the threat of internet as a bargaining too with my kids: "if you don't put away your room, I'll show pictures on the net!!" – only kidding, but it is sort of tempting 🙂
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:15 pm

thank you Debbie, you are so kind
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:16 pm

Thank you Pam; hope that trip comes through one day
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:16 pm

Thank yo so much Bobbi!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:17 pm

each country has its own traditions, but it's true that no French guest would expect a tour of the house here
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:19 pm

Gracious Julia, I hardly think that is about to happen, I don't have that many followers! thank you for stopping by
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:20 pm

thankyou!

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:21 pm

I agree Lynne, we are in a very kind and polite blogosphere
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:22 pm

this is rather a good idea Miranda, especially now the season is practically over for us, I shall start using the cottage more for photo shoots – thank you!!

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:23 pm

The great thing about showing 'corners' of rooms Delaine, is that the rest of the room can be a disaster and nobody will every know! 🙂
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:25 pm

Tina my dear, your lovely home and blog is a completely different situation. The story of your house being built was fascinating, and very compelling to read. Made only better by your down-to-earth and friendly writing style.
Thank you for being such a bright light in our blogosphere
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:29 pm

thank you Joey Lea, I just stopped by your blog, you have some beautiful things to share!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:29 pm

how I love restraint!!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:30 pm

thank you so much Sarah, warmest to you both
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:30 pm

🙂

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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:30 pm

a strange age indeed
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:32 pm

Hi there Ivan, don't let them get at you! If you want to dry your flowers then you can, 🙂 and BTW, I have no 'radicchio' here!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:32 pm

thank you Paula
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:33 pm

a mama's pride gives you the right to do exactly as you please!!
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sharon santoni at my french country home October 14, 2012 - 2:39 pm

Thank you all so much for these amazing comments!!! My intention was to reply to each and every one, but I'm afraid the day is just too short, please forgive me if I haven't left a 'reply' to your comment. I have read and enjoyed every single word!
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Belle Inspiration Magazine October 14, 2012 - 3:08 pm

Your blog is just as it should be Sharon – friendly and elegant, just like you. Like you, I don't share photos of myself, family or home. Everyone has their own style and levels of comfort on sharing – your blog is marvelous!
Mimi

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Christel October 14, 2012 - 4:31 pm

Dear Sharon, I do feel like Karen, that your guests coming near you as a real person in real life seems to be a bigger step to me, too, than if they became acquainted with any piece of your furniture. To me privacy seems much more to be what "I am" than what "I have". – Nevertheless I do agree with most people here, that one has to do, what feels natural and comfortable. Starting my own blog Country Charme only some weeks ago, there were many thoughts about German law forcing on bloggers to give their full name and adress…I had much less problems with my picture, as I had been an editor of a magazine for 20 years and were thus already known to many people.- Your blog is wonderful and you must be perfectly right, seeing all that response you get! Kind regards Christel

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Kathysue October 14, 2012 - 6:32 pm

Sharon, I think you have to always do what is comfortable for YOU. It was a long time before I put up a picture of myself and I still do not put up my children or grandchildren. I wrote a mission statement a long time ago when I first started blogging and it has helped me stay true to who I am and what I want my blog to be.

https://goodlifeofdesign.blogspot.com/2011/02/blog-mission-statement.html

Only do what you are comfortable with, it is your life, home and blog,
Kathysue

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Mary Palumbo Collings October 14, 2012 - 7:34 pm

I think everyone blogs for various personal reasons. There is nothing wrong with "leaving a bit to the imagination". I must tell you that your blog always makes me wish I were in France ( i have never been, but hope to one day visit).You are right to do what is comfortable for you….
Ciao, and Happy Sunday…

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THE SPECTRUM SPECTACLE October 15, 2012 - 7:33 am

I look forward to your blog posts so much. Feed burner delivers them right before I go to sleep at night and your pictures tell me " all's right with the world" even though my days are spent mothering four special needs children who don't fit into society, but that's another story. I love how your pictures can take me to another place, even but for a moment. 🙂

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Timi October 15, 2012 - 9:22 am

You are absolutely right!!!! I don't show any photos of my family or home either in my blog. My family and home is private… You don't have to do what other bloggers tell you..you have your own right to decide what is right!

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pve design October 15, 2012 - 12:36 pm

I like a bit of both. It is after all your eye and how you share things with us that keep us coming back for more. I think the artful eye you have is why I visit. You could share snippets in your own way. Modesty is key for me too when it comes to sharing personal bits.
My readers love personal items. I think it shows we are real, human and not the imperfections of life truly connect us all.
pve

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Shelley October 15, 2012 - 5:57 pm

I think it is a personal option to each. I read blogs with tons of pictures of their kids and homes and others with none. Your blog should contain the content you want. Don't ever feel pressure to share any more than you feel comfortable.

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Avril Leigh October 15, 2012 - 7:08 pm

My blog is full of pictures of my home, my cooking, my grandchildren, my travels…it is a journal of my life because the technology allows that. However, it is not searchable on search engines; it is available only to family and friends to whom I give the address.
Your blog is for publication and the lines you draw for yourself there seem to me to keep a delicate balance between glimpses of your world and the family moments behind closed doors. That seems perfect to me.
Good wishes,
Avril

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~ Lisa ~ October 15, 2012 - 8:47 pm

I know the blogs that share more about their personal life and the ones who do not. I feel like I know them on a different level than I would know you.

Each person that visits a blog again and again does so pretty much knowing the content the blogger provides.

Perhaps they visit for pictures or for learning content. (such as a blog that contains more DIY or a cooking blog). Your blog seems to me to be more about the things you love and not so much about the inside of your home or your family. I enjoy this type of blog too. I have a blog but cannot hold down a full time job and contribute to the blog and have a family life too. I started it when I was laid off of work. I choose to spend my time reading blogs (like yours), rather than trying to keep up on mine. I get enjoyment from your blog and that is why I come back again and again. While I would LOVE to see pictures inside your home and of your family, I understand your need for privacy and respect it. I will continue to follow you and enjoy the beauty you post. 🙂

~ Lisa ~

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Anonymous December 6, 2012 - 6:05 pm

I have looked and looked and looked for a tour of your wonderful house. Now I know why I was not able to find it. 😉

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