I seem to be surrounded by friends preparing weddings for their daughter or son …. there is an air of excitement and anticipation in the air that is quite contagious.
Of course each family is different, and times are definitely a changing. One girlfriend told me that her daughter had just gone on holiday with her boyfriend … and returned wearing a wedding ring! No big party, no big fuss, they had just got married privately and chose to share the news with their respective families once home.
I joked with my girlfriend that at least that way she didn’t have to worry about table settings and seating plans, but I could tell that even though she is happy for the young couple, she felt a little cheated.
None of my children are about to marry – as far as I know! – but talking with my friend made me stop and think about how I’ll feel about the weddings, if and when they happen. Because of course they may never marry, or they may simply settle down with someone ….
But if there are weddings, well, I am a bit of a control freak – ahem! and I guess it will be hard for me to stand back and say “this is your day, you choose, and let me know if I can be of any help”, but of course that is what it’s all about. Sharing their joy, being happy for them and with them without letting our own views and opinions show that much.
Last year I had fun taking a couple of mothers-of-the-bride shopping here in Normandy and also in Paris. One was very organised, and had been sent to France with a shopping list by her equally well-organised daughter, they were planning a big and spectacular wedding, with preparations that a general would be proud to put his name to. The other family was going for a quiet family wedding and the mum was simply happy to find a few little bits of treasure. I saw pictures of both events , each divine and each very different.
I loved both their styles, and believe me we had great fun finding lace, and favours, and antique napkins with the right initials for the bride and groom and silver cutlery and an antique veil and … and … well the list went on for ever.
So I wondered what your thoughts or experience are of this, have you already been or are you about to be a mother or father at a wedding? Is your opinion sought, do you feel involved, or are you actually quite happy to do nothing more than turn up looking lovely on the big day?
all pictures from pinterest