We all get busy – right? …. We all have moments when we look at our diary and think “Oh boy, I don’t know how all of this is going to fit into one day?!”
Well the late summer, early fall has been a bit like that here. And it’s got me thinking about how I pace myself and use my time. And whether I want to create a little more me-time … or whether the truth is that I just love to be busy.
Because here I am, in my first few months as an empty nester, meant to be enjoying all that extra time and freedom of movement that I have heard so much about ?! …. and , well, euh, remind me!
Fall is pretty lively here, with my brocante tour, with clients in and out, this year promoting the book … and then of course there is family because even though the children’s bedrooms each stand empty now I am still lucky enough to be needed by my kids, and by my Mum who I like to spend a few days with each month.
Oh yes, then there are the dogs that want to walk, the horses that need to be fed, a garden to maintain and a little thing called this blog which seems even more demanding than everything else put together! So before you know it, the day has gone, and the week and the months and the year.
Of course our new ’empty nest’ status has instilled a different rhythm. No more early morning school runs, no more ferrying kids to parties or concerts or late nights out. And as a couple we are finding our feet again, and rediscovering how we want to use our work and play time. There is a pleasant gentleness to recreating a life ‘à deux’.
But after so many years having my time carefully laid out in pre-allotted slots, I have been surprised at how much adjustment is required. In an ideal world, as well as work and family commitments, I want to exercise, to be sociable, to be creative and dare I say it? … I want to be a little self- indulgent.
My self-indulgence is nothing fancy …. it could be an afternoon painting; a lunch with a girlfriend; a manicure; a ride in the forest … or it could simply be an extra hour or two in bed in the morning with a cup of tea and a good book!
So of course I am wondering how you work out your time, and whether you treat yourself to something special now and again? … do you think that in today’s busy world, each generation has a longer list of commitments and obligations? …. is it true that with changing social patterns we are the generation that is caught both caring for young adult children and older parents? …. Or is it simply that we bow to pier pressure and try to do too much?!
Over to you, I’d love to hear whether you govern your time, or you feel governed? And how you self-indulge?